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The Good, the Bad & the Inevitable of a Beginner Solo Traveler

The Good, the Bad & the Inevitable of a Beginner Solo Traveler


Back from my first ‘official’ solo trip with lots of cool experiences to share from Thailand and what I’ve learned about being on the solo road! Everything from mastering squat toilets and cold showers while trekking in the mountains, eating bugs, drinking tiger penis soaked whiskey in Laos, smoking with Buddhist monks, practicing circle 8’s with a guesthouse owner’s motorbike so I could rent a scooter, getting lost virtually …everywhere and more.

Firstly, a shout out of warm thanks to friends following fun updates on Facebook . Special Mahalos to those who super-caring and supportive of my first solo-solo and who went of their way to make sure  I was safe and well-armed with Thai advice. You all Rock! my heart.

Here’s a breakdown of what I learned as a beginning solo traveler-


The Good of Being a Solo Traveler

I survived my first beginner steps of becoming a female solo traveler (of developing countries) and guess what- I loved every moment of it! I am converted.  I totally understand how people can be attracted to both, Thailand and solo travel!

Thailand feels one of the easiest and safest countries to travel for a first time soloist: it’s well-traveled, the Thai are beautiful people (super-friendly and full of helpful smiles) and the convenience of having multiple modes of transportation options (I’ve used almost all of them), ensured that I was never stranded or worried as to how I would get around. Where there’s a will, there’s a way and in Thailand, you are given many ways!

Most importantly, as a female traveling alone, I always felt safe– even walking or biking home late at night.

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When I first initiated my challenge to travel the developing world solo, I wasn’t sure what to expect or whether I would like it.  All I knew is that expanding my notion of travel to countries, which persevere through developing hardship and have an enduring cultural pride towards their traditions is my new passion. While this type of travel can feel physically demanding and challenging, I’ve found ita rewarding experience.  My first giant step however, was erasing the fear to find the confidence of traveling alone.

(* Dealing with fear and trip preparations for this challenge are in my last 3 blog posts).

Friends, family and the people I’ve met on my trip, all thought I was “brave” for doing this trip alone.  No one would openly admit to me-  that given the opportunity to travel solo they probably wouldn’t want to; and that being a female solo traveler in popular theory, probably ranks as high as the guy whose job is to clean up elephant poo!  It hardly seems like a fun, hip and sexy way to travel.

After this trip, I’d have to disagree.

The Hip Solo Traveler

Carrie Bradshaw is the least of my role models when I travel. Why?…

I’m strapped to a backpack, a wardrobe of 3’s (shirts, pants & underwear) and camera equipment,  sweating through 90 degree weather in a country with conservative traditions; sexy is hardly the attention I want to draw to myself!

Still, unless your idea of traveling fun is bar-hopping with friends or a romantic getaway (you can still have these experiences as a soloist- it’s really dependent upon you!); then sometimes, being fixed to a partner or group can actually be more limiting to your experiencing the cultural interactions you’re there to explore!

The Good, the Bad & the Inevitable of a Beginner Solo Traveler

By drawing upon daily local encounters and being open to exchanges with a variety of people, I felt like I was sampling Thailand not only through the Thai, but through a mixed palette of cultural perspectives found in fellow travelers (photo below is of me and a mix of Indonesian and Malaysian travelers).

In fact, I seldom experienced moments of feeling a l o n e (and these very remediable exceptions I’ll explain in a later blog).

For my shy friends:

Traveling solo inspires social confidence, even if you don’t know the language!

1.  You utilize your most basic human survival skills .

You must interact and initiate conversations with people in order to get around. Upon doing so you quickly find that you want to interact with people and that all people are interesting!

2.   Everything around you is foreign but you are actually The Foreigner.

Waiting for their bus, Thai sisters- Kew and Nu- watched, giggling at me as I took photos of a neighborhood altar. Nu followed me to a Kuan Yin statue around the corner, then reported me back to her sister. Their curiosity with me paved a perfect opportunity for me to approach them conversationally about Thai religion. In my travel incarnation, I was re-born as “exotic and interesting”, even if just a curious American.

As a tourist, everything appears foreign to me. But likewise, I’m the actual foreigner and I’ll bet I’m equally as interesting to others.

3- Soloists get instant Damsel-in-Distress sympathy.

I got a lot of help from strangers. People were more inclined to approaching, helping and watching out for my safety, because I was alone.  Essentially, strangers looked out for me.

4.  Language barriers are everyone’s  stumbling blocks.

Aside from myself, even my Malaysian and Indonesian friends, were stumbling in their attempts to communication to Thai people. In Thailand, the native tongue is Thai and the secondary tongue is  still Thai (not English). Not all Thai people speak English or even read it.

 

Advice and tricks to dealing with language barriers

Be resourceful and always carry a sense of humor about yourself !

Everyone finds their own way of communicating across the great divide- from pointing at pictures, attempting to speak while “butchering” the language or accidentally discovering, as my Malaysian friends did, that your taxi driver knows Chinese!

Aswin (my new travel friend from Indonesia) made his own brilliant “point-ready maps” to help get him around. Thanks to him and his maps, we were able to direct our taxi driver as to sites we wanted to see in Ayutthaya. Pretty cool, huh?

 

I came equipped with all of three Thai survival phrases: “Hello”, “Thank You” and “Where is…?” Whenever I hit a barrier I couldn’t “butcher” or “point” my way through, I surrendered to the game of comedy- I Charaded my communications! I find people usually warm to you when you debase yourself at their expense.

Being a foreigner amidst other foreigners is an opportunity to laugh at yourself as you experiment with fun and creative means of communication.

Read Do you need to know the language of the country you travel?

“The Bad” of Being a Solo Traveler

The most life threatening thing that happened to me in Thailand– my DSLR camera didn‘t survive and is off to repair as we speak. The irony: it started going wonky just as I was about to take my very first shot.

One purpose for my traveling is photography, so this was a major non-work-aroundable drag.  And while I carry a backup consumer video camera to document my experiences– it’s really the last thing I care to use. Other things inevitably went wrong also – my backpack didn’t arrive with me in Bangkok, parts of my itinerary fell through, I accidentally peed on my shoe, and got lost and LOST…

But this all makes for interesting blogging.

Accept when things go wrong and go with the flow.

We always feel the need to control their experiences. When things go wrong, we try to force it into what we think it should be and sometimes, this limits our potential.

I’m a big believer in the universe and feel most things occur for a perfect reason; even if at first, it seems like crap luck. In fact, my most rewarding experiences have been a  result of many moments of “uncontrollably crappy luck”.

Without my camera, I realized-  it was actually  my camera which burdened my enjoyment of this trip. With the obsessive need to document everything, I was growing resentful of it. While I was experiencing a lot of cool- embarassing- brave- horrific things for the first time, my camera was becoming a big ball and chain!

Instead, my first soloist journey wanted to be lived.

I spent half a day searching for a fun touristy point-and-shoot to at least salvage personal memories. What I discovered was a more perfect camera, the Samsung ST500 (aka Samsung Dual View LT220 ). I am absolutely crazy about this camera- I’d recommend it to every GRRRL soloist! The main feature are dual LCD screens, which allows self-shooting.  What does this mean for a soloist? You know, those lonely moments when everyone is “click-happy” with friends and you’re trying not to look pathetically bummed you’ve got no one to take your picture?

GONE!

That’s me taking my own photo with my new Samsung ST500!

The Inevitable of Being a Solo Traveler:

Initially, I believed the myth- that “traveling alone” means you have to be 1o0% brave, in-control and self-reliant. But the big irony once you get there is you  find you have very “little” control over things and this is perfect!

Read Is being a female solo traveler easy?… Not!

Every bad is inevitably a good. Always remain open and trust that the right experience will come if even if it’s not in the form you initially wanted!

My second day in Bangkok and my itinerary was already  unraveling. A major meditation retreat I planned fell through.  I had several days in Chiang Mai that I wasn’t sure how to fill as this  retreat was the meat of it! Eventually, recommendations and advice from others activated creative improvising and a better plan. While I didn’t get my meditation retreat in Chiang Mai, I did get abducted by a monk in Sukhothai and got my chance to peek into the ordinary lives of monks…which actually was my real objective. Crazy universe!

Monk friend reveals to me the secret wisdom of monks discovered through all those hours spent sitting in meditation- Joint and pain relief ointment!

Your trip can become 10x more amazing, when you surrender your need for control and just go with the flow!

Read Abducted by a Monk in Thailand

Very surfer Zen, I know.  Very scary. So I wouldn’t dump the idea of itinerary planning for my next trip, just yet…  But developing this intrinsic trust of knowing things are going to play out perfectly- as long as you do your part of acting from wisdom or getting yourself to a certain place on time- is very liberating.


Announcing  GRRRL TRAVELER challenge #2:

So while I will be blogging more about my *beginner* solo GRRRL Traveler adventures and discoveries in Thailand, my GRRRL TRAVELLER challenge #2 and its contest needs to be mentioned because it is coming up very very quickly.    It will offer a surprising twist for my travel life. Please stay tuned…

Thanks for your attention spans!
Until,

Christine

10 Comments

  1. Thanks for your read, everyone. I really appreciate the time you took and your comments! Travel wings to you!

  2. Anonymous says:

    fun read chris!!! please keep it coming…

  3. Katja says:

    It made me laugh out loud just imagining you there….at times.
    wonderful read, looking forward to MUCH more..

  4. LK says:

    Wow…what an exciting read. I was beginning to really feel pulled into your soloist travel experiences enjoying the read and almost hearing, smelling and seeing on site the things you share and then it’s over…that’s great writing in all respects…thanks for sharing your travels and leaving me jealous for not being able to experience that too. LK

  5. aswin andrean says:

    an inspiring story 4 everyone who luv travel, can’t wait 2 c u visiting my country (indonesia)…

  6. Awww…so you’ve been holding your breath this whole time, Papa??? I am safe and well in tact- I’ve got all of my 9 fingers and 10 toes!

  7. Your Dad says:

    Now I can finally exhale…again.

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