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Solo Travel: How to Make Friends when you Travel Alone (Part 2)

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How to Make Friends when you Travel Alone (Part 2)

If you’ve read my last post on tips to make friends when you travel alone, this is the second part of the post and video.

Each time I plan a new trip, I experience a slight hesitation. The old demons revive in my head and echo– What if you start feeling lonely? What if something happens and there’s no one to help you?

Often they come from my waning self-confidence and my tendency to occasionally doubt myself. I keep forgetting it’s something I have capability to control as solo traveler, moreso than if I ventured with a partner! I forget how I’m always meeting people on the road and how I’m happier, winsome and my personality has a chance to come out vs. hide behind another person.

I keep forgetting how “having a partner”, can actually be more “work” than if I’m on my own.

But okay, back to my post~  as I’ve said before, solo travel is not lonely nor doesn’t have to be.

However, there’s going to be times when loneliness on the road feels unavoidable.  Loneliness can occur due to many
reasons- from feeling unfamiliar with a culture,  isolated from social activity, … maybe, you’re dipping into self-pity for being on your own or you’re just too shy to meet people.

Keep in mind, wherever you go, if you see people, then you’re not alone. Loneliness is a choice.  There are always opportunities to make friends and I’m going to share a few more ways!

How to Make Friends when you Travel Alone (Part 2)

  • Talk to locals 

So there’s a language barrier between you and locals… so what? Mime, gesture, find ways to play with your communication… Laughter is a positive universal language.

I tend to find some locals enjoy when a traveler speaks to them.  Either it’s a way to practice their English, an honor that a foreigner wants to talk to them, a novelty or just a cool way to share a friendly bridge in a world of differences. Sometimes, with children, I let them play with my camera. This brings smiles and some fun photos like the one above.

  • Stay with locals

It’s a great way to make friends in the city you’re in. There’s two options I know of:

Couchsurfing.com is a free site, where you can book a place on someone’s couch or just try to find people to meet up to have coffee. I personally, have not tried this site yet, but a lot of travelers vouch for it. Of course, like all things, you should use caution and street smarts about the people you’re meeting or staying with.

AirBnB.com is a paid service where you will stay with a local and they can potentially be a host to your stay.

 

  • Be open and make an effort. 

For shy people this may be hard, but force yourself to open and active about meeting people  — When you’re traveling alone, it’s easy to feel shy at times or to feel awkward for being alone. Don’t be. Talk to people. Be a Yes Wo/man! Make an effort to make friends.

How do you do this?   Go to where the group is.  Extend an invitation to others to join you or invite yourself to things.

Tip: Invite others to do things with you if they sound interested in doing the same thing.

If you observe other travelers and how they work,  and you’ll find that’s what they’re doing. They’re being resourceful. And that’s how they’re making friends. You don’t know how many solo female travelers I meet who run up to me and ask if I’m taking a taxi to the same location. If I do, they ask if they can share my cab and split the fare. It happens a lot!

Remember:  The more you do this, the more you’ll get comfortable with it.  I never used to be the type of person to invite myself into other peoples’ plans. Now, I don’t think twice.

  • Don’t take rejection personally .

Traveling alone has taught me to have a thick skin, because much of my needs are survival based. Yes, there are times you’ll meet rejection– maybe someone doesn’t want to do the same thing as you, they don’t want extra company or perhaps, they prefer to spend the time with someone else. Don’t take it personally. Please, please, please don’t. You have to see a situation for what it is– traveling can be expensive and most folks want to make the best use of their time. They want to get to the nitty gritty and experience what they want to experience. …Just like you. So travelers, while open, will also be selective with their time.

 I decline invitations for the same reason and it’s because I already have a mental vision of what I want to experience in my day and someone else’s offer doesn’t align with that.  It has nothing to do with the other person.  Similarly, I might get rejected too (although,… that actually hasn’t happened to me yet. More or less, I’ve only met rejection from friends who are travel companions. Funny right?).

Okay, whatever. Shrug it off- go onto the next person until you find a Yes!

Bonus (not in the video)

Be open 

  –   “Give yourself a chance to meet the stranger you’ve never met …in yourself!”

Travel teaches us how to make unlikely friends. I know some of you will whine,”But I just don’t get along with some people; they’re “not my type.”

So let me ask you this– what is not your type of human being?  Yes, we all have personalities we get along with and don’t.  In the end, we’re all human beings and the beauty of travel is that it doesn’t make any distinctions.

 I get it though.  Maybe you’re not into the partying or bar hopping crowd or you don’t like loud travelers.  I’m not big on those things either, and generally, those are travelers I try to avoid, when I’m being close-minded. But the thing is this– you don’t have to hang with that person when they party. Maybe you just need a day mate or a friend to visit one site with.  You’re simply sharing a moment in time together and then parting. Also, human bonding may make you see those “type” of travelers in a new light. Maybe you discover that “type” of person brought an extra kick to your day. Maybe they pushed you outside your comfort zone to do something you might have never tried on your own,… but is now the highlight of your trip!  Occasional “wild cards” are necessary to a good adventure. And the beauty of solo travel… you can walk away when you feel like it.

When I was living in South Korea, I met a lot of people in my program who weren’t like me. Going out with them, at times, felt like wearing mismatched shoes, but I still did it. And  I did not regret it. In the end, every human being offers something valuable and you might just miss it if you’re too selective about finding your ideal type of travel companion.

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Unlikely dinner companions, who while couldn’t be worlds different from me or each other, gave me a nice sense of stability,  comfort and good conversation in Gokarna India.  They also introduced me to a hole-in-the-wall Indian cafe I might never have known to try.

Did you miss Part I of my solo travel tips on how to make friends when you travel alone? Read it right now here.

 

Disclaimer: One should always be safe and cautious about who they make friends or trust.  While I use most of these tips I’m sharing, I never divulge important information or let my guard down completely.  I also use my independence to detach from people or situations, when they don’t feel right.

 

What are your tips for making friends when you travel alone?

6 Comments

  1. foongpc says:

    Great tips! I love traveling alone as I can do what I like! And I have to agree having a travel partner can sometimes be more ‘work’ like you said! 🙂

  2. Hey girl,
    It’s the old man “stalker” LOL! Glad to see that you included a couple of more mature individuals in one of your photos. We sometimes tend to not speak up around young people, as we think they have no interest in discussing anything with us old people, as we don’t usually party or stay out late. That was a very positive aspect of your post for me. Glad to here you “have a partner” now also as I am losing mine!

    My advice is to take a cooking class as I always do in every country. I feel it gets you closer to the culture and the people and you are right sometimes all you have are hand signals, etc but it always winds up with a meal and very much laughter at the student’s ineptitude in some cases! Ha! Take care my friend and “Safe Travels”!
    Mike

    • Christine Kaaloa says:

      @Mike @NomadicTexan: Cooking class is an awesome recommendation!

      You mean the toothless local man? lol. joking. Yeah, the two older gentlemen I men were my dinner knights and they introduced me to a restaurant they recommended. I’m glad they did speak up- at first I didn’t think I’d have much in common with them but discovered they were exactly the companions I needed. Also, I still looking for the part which eluded to a misunderstanding. I am and have been happily solo since the birth of my solo travel blog. All you see me doing in work for this blog and my freelance career has been solely on my own.

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