Omg What will they think of me with more than 15 relationships?…. But now happily married for 22 years? Youth is to be enjoyed fully but with caution and worries to be left for later.

@Ellen: ha ha… I hope not, but after my reply to your comment, I’m sure we westerners all sound either, a bit whore-ish or more informed. LOL.

@Ellen: Thanks so much for sharing your experience and comment! As a westerner, I always think I’m misinterpreting certain aspects of the culture and I get informed up to a point. It never feels like a whole picture and this leaves me with even more questions, as the difference between Korea and the West is vast in regards to the topic of sexual freedom.

I find the conservative attitude both, refreshing yet shocking. In the U.S. kids are having sex from 14yrs (maybe younger) and teen pregnancy and disease is a problem to the point, sex education, condoms and birth control is spoken about openly. Films and tv sell sex to their audiences too. “How to talk to your lover, get or fake an orgasm, get multiple orgasms, turn your guy on,” etc… are articles you’ll find littered in glamor/fashion magazines like Cosmopolitan, Vogue, etc… at your local grocery check-out counter. And girlfriends (eek!)– sometimes, we have this saying that “gfs are scariuer than guys, when talking about sex”. Guys discuss “conquests” & generally, they lie. But girls are honestly gritty– they’ll complain about a guy’s XXX size, if the guy was ‘a bad lay’ or give praise if their guy is “sensitive and giving” partner…

I agree, the internet can be a bad source of information. Often, information is subjective vs. informational and factual. We all have to be smart about the information we take in.

P.S. I will stand by what I said: I’m not meaning to be insensitive, but I do think many more women are able to have orgasms. More than they think. With or without a partner. But women need to explore that on their own. They need to talk openly with their partner about maximizing her pleasure. 😉 That’s been more of the western approach.

It is true as some guys in the comments mentioned, most girls lie or never talk about sex. I have very close group of 6 girls from college(the supposedly “nerdiest” university in Korea) whom I’ve been hanging out from 19. We all had boyfriends except one girl, and it was only at the age of 25 that we started talking about sex, that is 6 years since we’be been best friends. Only three of the six talk about it time to time, because one has never had a boyfriend before, the next is very conservative so we think she hasn’t had sex yet, and the last one recently got married but has not brought up the topic yet to the rest of us. The three of us only talk to each other about sex, never to other three.

The very little reliable information available plays a big role too. Since most girls have trouble finding someone with vast experience in sex to talk to, they rely on little resources from their few very trusted friends or “the internet”. Like in Susan’s case, that friend can be very important! I had to use internet too sometimes when my down there was itching or didn’t feel any orgasm, but what I read were all SO WRONG, now that I look back. Yes, the internet says that many women do not experience orgasm at all in their lifetime. And the tips to getting one are really stupid. Also, most girls don’t even think about playing with yourself so they don’t know about their body. The boys have similar amount of knowledge topped with what they see from porn so they only know how to maximize their own pleasure – which also leads to girls freak out from the first time’s pain. Likewise, many girls believe that birth control pills will make you infertile forever and this sort of information is what we get on the internet.

An average, conservative Korean parent will scold and ban their daughters from coming home late or going on trips to other cities or sleeping over at a girl friend’s house because it could be an excuse to stay out with their boyfriends. The friend that just recently got married confessed that the fact that her husband agreed on her going on trips with her friends sealed the marriage deal because her own parents didn’t let her. Most girls live at home, it is very hard to have a legitimate sex life until you are married. (I tried to move out once but my mom threatened to cut all ties with me forever……….this situation may change if you are over 30) We have lots of love hotels rented by 2~3 hours and DVD rooms equipped with a sofa-bed and a box of tissue instead. In this kind of environment, i think it’s harder to feel very comfortable for the girl to relax and enjoy.

But still, it’s not all that bad, “Susan” is not the average at least.

Remember that more than half of the women are not christians, and they do not have the guilt trip of practicing sex, they are just afraid of being stigmatized. I am korean, and I’ve never had any problems with sleeping with my ex gfs. Actually, I’d like to add, most college girls will go out and have one night stands, and keep it a secret.